Monday, May 20, 2013
My first blog ever and after much contemplation, I decided to blog about what make life beautiful. After thirty plus years of living, I have found that the things that were important to me ten or fifteen years ago were unimportant. when I was in my early and mid twenties I never wanted to get married and having children was something that I would run far far away from. I thought if i could not stand other people's children how can I be a good parent or even like my own children. Well, I got married eleven years ago, much to my own surprise. We have 3 very rumbustious boys and they have stolen my heart for better or worse. There are days when they absolutely make me exhausted and I ask myself, "Why did I think I could do this job?" but then I realize my life would be BORING without them. My three boys make my life beautiful!!
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Yinka, I got some good news and some bad news for you. They only get more rambunctious as time moves on and then, the next thing you know you're a grandparent and things chenge again. Enjoy them while you can still keep up with them. <<>>
ReplyDeleteAll that sounds like great news. The years are already passing by too fast with my oldest turning 11 in October and my baby starting kindergarten. I am definitely looking forward to having a more quiet morning and afternoon to myself. I'm truly enjoying being able to have more mature conversations with my oldest and seeing how he is maturing each year. I am looking forward to see the great men they will grow up to be.
DeleteIt's amazing how much children can change your life! My daughter will be a sophomore in high school next year and I am already panicking about her graduating from high school and going off to school. I don't know what I am going to do with myself without her around!
ReplyDeleteChildren make us question everything we think we know about ourselves. I always knew I would be a mother. I have two daughters. They have tested my patience and made me cry with pride at their accomplishments. No owners manuals come with them so mistakes happen. I have made many mistakes but would never change the choices I have made. In the end, I think we revert back to how our parents raised us. For good or for bad, we influence our children on what kind of parent they will be and that is a great responsiblity.
ReplyDeleteAhhh, the HORROR of raising my children the ways my children raised me. The biggest dread for every parent out there. So true though is the fact that my kids have taught me more than I thought they would. They are as different as any three kids can be and I so love their individuality that my parents did not appreciate in their seven children. I've been known to criticize my parents on how they raised us but I have come to respect my mom more for having seven children, working hard for our survival and not giving up on her marriage when hard times rolled around. Life does come full circle and slap us in the face.
DeleteAs someone who doesn't have any children and now wonders if I ever will, I have the utmost respect for those who have embarked on that path. I've come to witnessed both the challenges and the rewards that parenthood can bring and have come to realized that I'm ill-equipped to tackle such a responsibility. I always thought that I wanted kids but the older I've gotten, the more I've discovered that just because you may want something doesn't mean that you should always have it.
ReplyDeleteOh Erica, don't discount yourself too fast now. I have gone from wanting seven children like my mother when I didn't know better to not wanting children at all because I couldn't stand children. If being equipped was a requirement, trust me, there will be a few billion less people in the world. I'm not going to sugar coat the BIG responsibility but I cannot begin to explain the LOVE a new parent feels at the first sight of that child after nine months of pregnancy and hour(s) of labor. It is a love that can't compare to anything I have experienced.
DeleteI have never had children, but have 2 nephews that make me feel the same way!
ReplyDeleteI admire parents! It is a very hard job but it comes with so many blessings!!
I was the same way Yinka. I've always been independent and could never see me slowing down because of a little one now being dependent on me. But it happened. There were great and proud times and there were not so great and disappointing times. The great one's outweighed the not so great one's though. Parenting changed my life, because without him I don't know who I'd be. Enjoy them because they grow up fast!
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